Posted by Kelli Joan Bennett
Day 340: My Amazing Unexpected Mentor who has recently become my co-producer on film project number one rustled up an incredible opportunity for the project through a friend of hers…namely, an extra 100 grand for us to make the film. Come to find out last night that money would cost us too much (namely, my co-producer’s sanity) because the final source where that extra financing would have come from (not her friend, who is lovely) was simply not a match for the energy of our project. We’re saying “no.” This experience has me thinking about the concept of matches in life. As life coach Andrea Quinn puts it, “you’re just looking for your people.” The source of that dough is not our people.
My favorite acting coach—actress and teacher Julie Ariola—runs an Awareness Workshop I took a couple times years ago that forever changed my concept of who and what I want coming into and being in my life—who and what are my matches. I dug up my old journals from those workshops—dated 9/3/01 and 2/15/03—man, does time fly! For some reason I can’t find the notes on our discussion of “matches.” Maybe that was something we talked about in acting class? Long story short, when something is a match it’s ultimately effortless. Not that you don’t make an effort to take a meeting or write a script or seek out new people or work on your relationship but, when something or someone is a true match it flows into being. When I was younger, I was always trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. I had to go after the guy who didn’t want me. I wanted the jobs that didn’t want me. I sought business partners that didn’t have the same ideological belief system for the project or venture that I did. I just won’t do that anymore. Life is too short.
Not sure if any of that makes sense. Bottom line, I’m just looking for my matches in everything and with everyone in my life and for my projects. I don’t care how much money someone has to offer, if they’re not my people, they’re not my match.
Until tomorrow, create from what you have…matches.